Conservative Ken Mehlman, the former RNC chair, is now calling for GOP support of same sex marriage. I hope in my heart of hearts that it works and his buddies jump on board with him. I know plenty of people, little and big, who pretty much have huge hunks of their lives—indeed, from many perspectives, their whole lives—on hold until fairness is legalized in America.
While homeschooling, teaching co-op classes, and generally having our home open for play dates all of the time, I meet a lot of really fun, cool kids. I know some very young people who aren’t of legal marrying age yet who want to marry people of the same sex someday, and when two of them found out that it wasn’t legal in our state yet, they were absolutely outraged.
A long discussion occurred about how some states have legalized it and how we are working very hard to change it, but the hardest part of these discussions so far is explaining why. Why do people not want people who love each other to get married? That’s a very, very good question, kids, and I think it should be asked of these leaders—and of the far right parents who claim they don’t know what to tell their kids if they see two men or two women get married. I’ll tell you what, folks; I try my best at playing the “not understanding” card, but it’s really hard to not just call y’all monsters who just hate people who are different from you.
And I guess that makes me as bad as you, that I want to do that.
It just crushes me that you work so hard to prevent them from having the same rights you do—hell, their pets have more rights than they do; one of my lesbian friends just found out that even after their marriage in another state, she still can’t get medical coverage under her wife’s plan but their dog can!—and there are these young, hopeful faces just falling in front of my eyes.
Of course, some of my daughter’s friends also think same sex marriage is “wrong”—we do live in the Bible belt, after all—which is even more confusing for the kids who don’t. I’ve told the kids who are just baffled by it that we don’t want to bring it up on play dates—that or mythology, with one parent who doesn’t come around much anymore, actually—with our friends who aren’t “comfortable” with it, which makes me feel like an idiot, too. If any other equal rights-supporting parents have experience with having friends (or kids of friends) with these perspectives, I’d love to hear how you handle it.