We talk about a lot of different types of toxins on this blog. We have discussed chemical based toxins from industrial plants, food based toxins, packaging toxins and many other normal toxins. We haven’t really looked at toxic people.
Now I’m not saying that people are running around dying to expose you to toxins. I just thought we should stretch the word toxin and think outside of the box for just a moment. I know that I have toxic friends and I tolerate them and even care for them on a friend level. I have however been trying to free myself slowly from my toxic friends. Let me tell you briefly of my toxic removal.
I have one friend in particular that I have been trying to ease out of my life. It’s difficult in that I really like her, we have been friends for over ten years and she knows many secrets that I don’t tell anyone. Let me just point out that she wasn’t always toxic, which is why we were able to be so close. I have continued to watch her change over the past few years and to be honest it just kind of snuck up on me and probably her.
The last few years my once funny and kind friend has become bitter and downright abusive to be honest. She literally will start screaming when she doesn’t get her way. The funny thing is that she doesn’t really have to get to that point; everyone just gives in so they don’t have to deal with her. I have been just as guilty, I agreed with her, rearranged my day, whatever to avoid a headache and a scene.
A few months back it hit me, I suddenly saw exactly what was going on. I’ve been slowly backing away, it must be working as she doesn’t call or come over nearly as much. There is this one part of me that really wants to say something, to give an explanation of why I haven’t been part of her life. I don’t say anything, I believe deep down I know it would be useless and repeat past behavior. I know this is odd to say, it’s almost as if my perfectly normal friend somehow turned into an adult bully.
Have any of you ever had an experience like this? If so, please share so that I and everyone else know that we are not alone. In the meantime, hang in there and I’ll periodically update you on my toxic friend detoxification.